tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post2116957237534085035..comments2023-11-03T07:03:44.938-06:00Comments on Big Blue Barn West: 'The Man' Tales - In The Endaimshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12685252628734838159noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-27586168019932222572008-04-06T15:04:00.000-06:002008-04-06T15:04:00.000-06:00I agree with those who commented that she passed y...I agree with those who commented that she passed your father's abuse onto you....you were so an emotional punching bag for her...and you just never knew how she was going to react...hot...cold...tepid...<BR/><BR/>but I know you need to tell all this, Aims....and cathartic it is..for all of us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-89932501149069080212008-03-17T14:39:00.000-06:002008-03-17T14:39:00.000-06:00Wow - there is power in your soft words and the te...Wow - there is power in your soft words and the telling of your soul.<BR/>Excellent post. Sad, but excellent. <BR/>I agree with SITH - your mother seemed to see things in B&W but life is full of shades of grey - and colour. <BR/><BR/>Thank you for sharing this. It must be painful but in a healing sort of way - that's how I find it in some of my posts.<BR/>Blessings.Cathhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01247084030899971480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-79197746653853523652008-03-17T12:43:00.000-06:002008-03-17T12:43:00.000-06:00I, too, am a child from abuse. I did not suffer a...I, too, am a child from abuse. I did not suffer as long as you did, and was rescued by a loving parent, but I know -- as apparently you know -- that the abuse, rather then twisting and destroying me, made me stronger, more loving and more compassionate.<BR/><BR/>Keep telling your stories, the poison has to come out, but I hope -- and reading just this one post I cannot tell -- I hope that you have forgiven your mother (not condoned) and find some pity for the demons that drove her and prevented her from ever having your respect or knowing the fullness of your love. As much as she took from you, she lost something precious as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-82229188224370219622008-03-15T20:42:00.000-06:002008-03-15T20:42:00.000-06:00Sounds like a crazy period in a crazy life, sweeth...Sounds like a crazy period in a crazy life, sweetheart.<BR/><BR/>Loved it, as usual. Can't wait for more.<BR/><BR/>I'm hoping that when we come to the end of the tale there'll be some photo's....travelling, but not in lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01063643541653145954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-82164160011581148242008-03-15T13:28:00.000-06:002008-03-15T13:28:00.000-06:00I swear I want to just slap her so hard .. what a ...I swear I want to just slap her so hard .. what a fool that woman is.Darylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08241795455748298624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-70557035149988388302008-03-15T09:47:00.000-06:002008-03-15T09:47:00.000-06:00Dawn - Even now I don't understand it...Thalia's C...Dawn - Even now I don't understand it...<BR/><BR/>Thalia's Child - Sometimes I wonder at myself too..but it is all part and parcel of the story...I'm very glad you commented though..<BR/><BR/>SITH - 'Everything is black and white'...a very interesting comment - you've given me something to think about here..<BR/><BR/>Hazel - Thanks girl...<BR/><BR/>Beckie - it does say it all though.<BR/><BR/>DnD - there is a happy ending - eventually.<BR/><BR/>Lane - It was never resolved and once you have West Nile Virus - you can't get it again - so no-one can be bothered testing. I'd like to know tho..<BR/><BR/>David - funny how we can just overlook those signs...LOL!<BR/><BR/>Laurie - and she didn't come back again! I had to beg a ride from my cousin..<BR/><BR/>Lisa Marie - Whenever I got sick I always wanted my Mom to be there for me...sad...<BR/><BR/>Irene - I wish I had some answer as to why me and why my parents were like that..but I don't - and I never will...<BR/><BR/>CF - I think you might have to stand in line..<BR/><BR/>Dearest B - Now this surprised me! I guess this rocked you more. I am sorry to be dragging you into a world so different than your own and doing it in such a manner. Sorry my friend.<BR/><BR/>Holly - Glad to see you over here girl. And odd!? Well - that's one way of putting it. I guess you need to read back a bit - all this story is under the 'truth' label on my sidebar...good luck if you want to..<BR/><BR/>Margot - There are so many different forms of abuse that people don't recognize as being abuse...this was definitely one of them.<BR/><BR/>John-Michael - and there you have it. The mental/emotional demons my mother lived with. I think you have said it perfectly. I think my mother took my father's abuse and turned around and dumped it on me. And because I didn't fight back or refuse it - it became really easy for her to do. <BR/><BR/>The 'trappings' of prayer...oh yes...indeed yes! She and the two sisters pulled that out whenever they could and flapped it about for all to see...aimshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12685252628734838159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-68220456101353585682008-03-15T06:14:00.000-06:002008-03-15T06:14:00.000-06:00How tragic is the awfulness of whatever mental/emo...How tragic is the awfulness of whatever mental/emotional demons that your mother has surrendered her life to. To live with the presence of such twisted ugliness inside had to cause her untold misery.<BR/><BR/>It seems that her attendance to you while she did was her outward performance of what she could display as a "Loving Mother" ... complete with the trappings of 'prayer.'<BR/><BR/>That you are able to present this account with the gentle sweetness and candor that you do speaks volumes about your marvelous depth of character. I do admire the person that you have become (and are continuing to become.)John-Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12301981965656607401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-65558447070974003782008-03-15T04:25:00.000-06:002008-03-15T04:25:00.000-06:00Yet another punch aims, I'm on the floor. Don't kn...Yet another punch aims, I'm on the floor. Don't know how you keep going! Love M xxA Mother's Place is in the Wronghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12383766405951386903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-7596204042107103262008-03-15T02:36:00.000-06:002008-03-15T02:36:00.000-06:00okay i don't know the background of your family, b...okay i don't know the background of your family, but that is really really odd. i mean *i* have a very odd family, and this beats them.hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14839794772310980473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-68717909687545448082008-03-15T01:16:00.000-06:002008-03-15T01:16:00.000-06:00If this were fiction we'd all know what to say her...If this were fiction we'd all know what to say here. But since it's not - well I for one am temporarily speechless!I Beatricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15671136605194399080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-57551211723812190462008-03-14T21:53:00.000-06:002008-03-14T21:53:00.000-06:00OMG I sooooo wish I could smack the snot out of yo...OMG I sooooo wish I could smack the snot out of your Mom...man oh man she makes me so mad...<BR/><BR/>Sorry...didn't mean to get worked up there...Canadian flakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00994909147845893087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-57890262412067844462008-03-14T21:29:00.000-06:002008-03-14T21:29:00.000-06:00My God, I am really sorry to say this, but your mo...My God, I am really sorry to say this, but your mother is such a bitch! The games she plays are incredible. I'm surprised you turned out as normal as you did. <BR/><BR/>I am really sorry, Aims, but her behavior is so totally unacceptable, even though I know I'm talking about your mother. She is a very disturbed individual.Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043376053971475659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-58147381318587718272008-03-14T20:09:00.000-06:002008-03-14T20:09:00.000-06:00I can't believe that she couldn't give a little mo...I can't believe that she couldn't give a little more effort while you were ill/recovering.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13219366045767828564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-17436114271798488112008-03-14T16:31:00.000-06:002008-03-14T16:31:00.000-06:00what? she said what?? jesus h. christ.what? she said what?? jesus h. christ.lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18055442432266567561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-90488944444585448342008-03-14T15:59:00.000-06:002008-03-14T15:59:00.000-06:00I'm sure your mother offered the motor home for BO...I'm sure your mother offered the motor home for BOTH reasons!!<BR/><BR/>Loved your answer on my Formula One post. <BR/><BR/>The thing that needs to come down (and it has!!) is the sign saying ``20 kmh'' on the bend!!david mcmahonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009095220051075552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-41203034218532033492008-03-14T15:02:00.000-06:002008-03-14T15:02:00.000-06:00Noo. She can't have said that. Surely.What to say?...Noo. She can't have said that. Surely.<BR/>What to say?<BR/>And your illness? Life sure threw some stuff at you Aims:-(<BR/>This sounds serious.Lane Mathiashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08147122748453850264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-53944309859480833842008-03-14T13:49:00.000-06:002008-03-14T13:49:00.000-06:00I too am speechless, I can't get over your family....I too am speechless, I can't get over your family.<BR/><BR/>Please, please let there be a happy ending.<BR/><BR/>DeborahdNDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00531819276422542672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-50587092649909641302008-03-14T11:46:00.000-06:002008-03-14T11:46:00.000-06:00Wow...that is all I can say....Wow.Wow...that is all I can say....Wow.Beckiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08428690536368982418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-21968918288476937522008-03-14T11:17:00.000-06:002008-03-14T11:17:00.000-06:00Like everyone else, I don't know what to say. I w...Like everyone else, I don't know what to say. I wish I was there to give you a hug.Living the Dreamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15939159453870412595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-43163335548617135252008-03-14T10:58:00.000-06:002008-03-14T10:58:00.000-06:00OMG (again) so often your story leaves me splutter...OMG (again) so often your story leaves me spluttering in indignation and frustration for you. Everything is so black and white with your mother. I'll stop there!softintheheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01365562754859033869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-32174701316326568142008-03-14T10:40:00.000-06:002008-03-14T10:40:00.000-06:00You know... I've been reading your blog for a bit ...You know... I've been reading your blog for a bit now... And I never know what to say.<BR/><BR/><BR/>I think it remarkable how candid you can be about something that must be so painful to you.Madam Crunchypantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11105080184570652882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4028121825203381857.post-81001487040582634542008-03-14T09:51:00.000-06:002008-03-14T09:51:00.000-06:00It was always up and down with your family. Amazi...It was always up and down with your family. Amazing she would be so hard headed about the whole thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com