Thursday, May 6, 2010

Some Very Precious Words (part 3)

What my Mom has taught me:

To be a daughter
To be  kind and gentle to someone who is old or sick
To be a mom
To be a wife
That grandparents are important
To be a friend
To laugh
To love someone with all your heart
To change your mind (she hated hockey, but loved watching hockey for the Olympics)

She taught me to cook, to bake, to make baby food, to do my own canning.

She tried to teach me to be crafty, but that was never going to happen.

She taught me about loyalty

She taught me about having a strong work ethic

She always made me feel wanted and special. She never made me feel like I was less than my brother. Harry and I were always both wanted and equally loved.

She was always excited and happy to see each of us.

She taught me that life is not fair or easy.

I saw how her heart was broken when her husband and son died, and realize how much more she depended on me and my husband.

She taught me to do the right thing.

My mom had a lifetime of friendships. Some came into her life and were life-long friends, some were there for only a short time.

The stories she told of her friends and how she did cherish them.

There is nothing like the memories.

Her words could be sharp and she could be miserable. She wasn't perfect.

She told me once that she was the Matriarch of the family. I didn't know if I should laugh or cry.

She did have a kind and gentle heart, sometimes I had to 'dig' for it
for her to let it show. She says it was the Brydges way, to have a stiff upper lip and not show your soft side.

She was known as; Mrs Birch, Florence, Flo, Flossy or Grandma, but to me she was Mom, and I will miss her.


Leatherdykeuk said...

What a lovely post!

Akelamalu said...

This is a lovely post Aims. It's right that you miss your Mom. x

aims said...

This is the last part of the eulogy written by my cousin for her mother.

I hope some of you have found some peace and a small caress of love from reading it.

Rest gently Aunt Florence.

Snowdrop said...

Thank you for visiting me - hope you'll come back.

bermudabluez said...

Very, very beautiful post Aims.

Maggie May said...

I will always miss mine too. We never grow out of this missing........
Maggie X

Nuts in May

Alcoholic Daze (ADDY) said...

I thought at first the last two posts were about YOUR mum. I was confused, because your mum had caused you so much hurt in the past, I wondered how you could be so forgiving. Then I read your comment here that it was about your aunt. How could two sisters
be so different?

Anonymous said...

A lovely tribute. Your cousin is very eloquent.

TSannie said...

So wonderful.

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Lane said...

These posts are beautiful and very moving.

You were very lucky to have such a aunt.

A lovely tribute.

Gone Back South said...

Hello, I have been looking at 'Mima's Doings' blog which is still on my blog roll. I've been wondering how she is, and it looks like you hear from her. Is she alright? Hope you don't mind me asking. Meanwhile, your post was lovely, and very wise.

menopausaloldbag (MOB) said...

Aw Aims, what beautiful writing. A lovely tribute to your mum and your aunt. It is certainly hard to come to terms with the loss of a mum. A gap that can never be filled. I too loved my aunt very much but I couldn't have put is eloquently as you did. X

San said...

Beautiful mother words, Aims. As are the previous two posts. Thank you.

BT said...

That's lovely aims.